The Broken Compass — How do abuse survivors know we deserve love?
The Broken Compass — How do abuse survivors know we deserve love? If your situation is anything like mine, your worries fell on deaf ears. Everything felt wrong for as long as you could remember. You’d been searching for answers for months, or maybe for years. Then one day something occurred to you. Was this abuse? So you found a test online and took it. It said you were likely being abused. Suddenly everything that had been tearing your insides apart for ages clicked into place. Everything made sense to you. Finally. But it fell on deaf ears. No one wanted to hear your bullshit. It wasn’t any of their business. They couldn’t choose sides. Maybe, like with one of my abuser’s enablers, you confided your plans to confront your abuser in them, and the only response they could be bothered to send you was a single thumbs up emoji, one that radiated contempt and disinterest. No acknowledgment. Complete refusal to engage your suffering. Person after person, that’s the same respons...